The 2-2-2 Rule

In the beginning of relationships, it is easy to put focus on our other half. You are getting to know each other, exploring what life is like with that person. As the relationship continues, we try to learn a balance between our relationship and other aspects of our life like work, hobbies, and friends. Unfortunately, it is common and easy for that balance to shift. We put focus on children, work, bills, and other responsibilities that could also lead to stress. Our daily routine helps us cope through all our responsibilities, but then realize that at times that means we put our relationships on the back burner. When this happens, we can feel distant from our partner. 

Relationships are not perfect. However, it is crucial to make it a priority for it to be successful and grow. One strategy that can maintain the balance of life responsibilities and keeping our relationship as a priority is following the 2-2-2 rule. 

This simple guideline reflects the concept of never stop dating your partner. Whether you have been with your person for 1 month, 1 year, or 50 years, never stop dating them! The 2-2-2 rule places the relationship in your schedule so it is easier to maintain the strong bond that correlates with dating your spouse. 

The 2-2-2 rule:

– every 2 weeks, have a date night/ date day

-every 2 months, have an overnight/ weekend getaway

-Every 2 years, have a week getaway

What’s great about this rule is that it complements following a routine. Simply block out these time periods to dedicate quality time with your partner. One barrier that people may say when looking at this rule is “I have kids!” Or “that’s too much money for that often.” Parents, your kids are very important, but so is your relationship. Taking the time to spend with your partner does not take away the love and care you have for your children. In fact, modeling this 2-2-2 rule shows your children positive and healthy relationship work. For those who may struggle financially, be creative! These dates do not have to cost a lot of money. Below is a list of free or low cost date activities for you and your partner:

– make dessert together

– go to the park and take a walk

– build a fort and have a movie night. Make movie night snacks while you’re at it!

– go star gazing

– play board games

– sit and read together or do puzzles

– drive to a nearby town and explore

– go for a drive

– walk through a farmers market

– try a new hobby together

– have a “yes day”

– have a picnic in the backyard

– take a buzz feed quiz together

Find what interests you and be open to going outside the usual dinner date. Check in with your partner and talk beyond the “how was your day” routine. You may find out some things that you never knew.