The Weakest Link

The Weakest Link

Did you ever watch the show “The Weakest Link?”  I can still remember the part of the show where contestants voted off a team member who they believed was the weakest link.  The announcer would always state in a monotone voice, “You are the weakest link.  Goodbye.”

Have you ever noticed that we sometimes do this in relationships?  The other person has traits that are not as strong as ours and we want to vote them out of our lives.  How effective is this mentality in a marriage relationship?  Seriously.  What if we changed our method of thinking?  Our marriage relationships are as strong as our weakest link.  If we are the stronger person in this season, we need to help the other person up. 

We might be going through a season of major life changes.  Birth of a child.  Purchase of a home.  Purchase of a car.  Death of a family member.  Job changes.  During this season of change, your partner might be the weaker link that needs your help to get through it.  During the next season of change, the roles may be reversed.  You may be the weaker link and you need your partner’s strength to get through it.

If we take time to recognize that these are simply seasons in which we can help each other, we can focus on what help is necessary in the moment.  And just do it.  Without complaining or blaming or excuses.  Just help. 

If you consider a team, you are always stronger as two working together rather than against each other.  Each person on the team has a specific function that they perform to the best of their ability.  When this happens, the team is an unstoppable force.   Think about the strength of a bonded family…my goodness.  Each person in the family has unique traits and characteristics that can be used for the good of everyone.  If you are all working together as a family, imagine the amazing things you could accomplish as a group.

Think about it in the reverse sense as well.  If each person on the team fails their duty, complains, argues or works against others – there is failure.  Your marriage will fail if you continue to do these negative habits also. 

Take some time today to think about how you can work together with your spouse and your family to accomplish amazing things.  In this week, what are you struggling with?  What strengths could your spouse bring to the equation?  What strengths could other members of your family bring to the situation?